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What is the difference between a limit and a preference?

From 5 years of verified research · Vassili Sandqvist
A

A limit is a pre-committed behavioral response to a specific violation of your stated conditions, while a preference is merely a request without any consequences. For example, saying 'Don't disrespect me' is a preference, but stating 'If you speak to me that way, I'll end the conversation' is a clear limit.

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