Is it necessary to feel gratitude towards an abuser for personal growth?
No, there is no obligation to feel gratitude towards an abuser for your own survival and growth. Gratitude towards a person who has caused harm implies a debt that does not exist; your growth is your own, while the harm inflicted is theirs.
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